Why Do People Bully? 9 Reasons for Bullying

Why Do People Bully
To understand the answer to this you have to step inside the mind of a bully. You have to look at their past and why they’ve become the person that they are. Bullies, like most people, can change their ways.

Many victims of bullying take up boxing training which improves physical attributes, but more importantly, mental aspects such as discipline and confidence. Here are 9 reasons for bullying.

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1) The Bully Has Been Bullied Before

Many bullies have been bullied before, whether by family or just by their peers. They may have been teased to a point where they feel insignificant, which makes them so angry that they have to take it out on someone else.

Especially if it happened to them in their childhood years, they could grow up with a bully mentality because it’s all they know. Of course, this goes both ways as someone who has been bullied before can turn out to be a great person.

2) The Bully Is Lonely

Feeling unimportant and left out can contribute to bullying. Everyone needs attention and sometimes, those who don’t have enough will turn into bullies.

It’s what they feel gives them power and a sense of importance. Even if they have many friends, they may still crave the attention they feel they deserve but are not getting.

3) The Bully Has Problems at Home

It’s common for a bully to have had problems at home. This could be physical or verbal abuse that will affect someone’s mind. That could turn a normal person into an aggressive and emotional being with a fragile mind. You have to understand that if this is the case, then the bully is a victim too.

4) The Bully Has Low Self-Esteem

If someone feels that they’re not smart enough, attractive enough or worthy enough, then they have to make themselves feel better about themselves. Whatever the reason is, the easiest way for them to achieve that is by putting someone else down. However, they’ll find out sooner or later that it’s a losing strategy because someone will fight back. Unfortunately, they will probably just go back to finding a weaker person to pick on.

5) The Bully Is Jealous

This ties in with the previous reason of the bully having low self-esteem. However, if a bully is jealous of a particular person then they’ll take their frustrations out on that person. The main reason for jealously is often popularity. The victim could be more popular than the bully which truly gets on their nerves.

6) The Bully Is Part of a Pack

More often than not, bullies roll in groups. They want a sense of security just in case someone decides to fight back, then they can call for back up. Usually, if they were alone, this reduces their confidence and they will wait until they feel safe.
why do people bully
The bully’s peers can either be bullies themselves or just popular people who are good at dealing with others. You have to filter out the good from the bad in the group.

7) The Bully Has a Big Ego

Some bullies don’t fit any of the above criteria. Their main motivation for bullying simply boils down to having a big ego. Their arrogance has made themselves believe that they’re the best thing since sliced bread. Until someone challenges them on this, they’ll continue to have the same frame of mind.

8) The Bully Likes to Impress

Certain people want to be the center of attention. We all know someone like that. There’s nothing wrong with that but a bully chooses to get that attention in the wrong way. They usually don’t have any particular talent or skills that can impress people so they have to poke fun at someone to get some laughs. Because of this, they feel that they’ve left a good impression among their peers.

9) The Bully Sees You as Being Different

A bully will pick out their target based on a specific reason. You could be different in some way, whether it’s by race, sexuality, disability or something else. They will single you out and verbally and/or physically abuse you. Usually, they won’t let you know the reason but most of the time it’s obvious.

A bully could fall under one or maybe even all of the above reasons…

…Some change within time while others remain a bully for the rest of their lives. It just depends on whether something or someone can change their mentality or not. Different circumstances and events can transform someone into a cool and understanding person. Unfortunately, it can also turn them into a complete bully.

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  • Nicely done. Here’s an article by the Keen Report that looks at it from a different perspective. http://www.keenreport.com/uncategorized/the-mind-of-a-bully/

  • kallysta

    this article has really spoken to me in a really good way

  • Odin Holloway-Condit

    Many people bully me because they assume I am gay when I hang out with girls instead of hanging out with guys and playing basketball. I am not gay however! I just think most guys are a** holes so I won’t go near them

  • JBWodehousian

    Bullies are a burden on this planet.

  • Katherine Ann Ryan

    On my Facebook page, I posted something to the effect, that “being mean, rude, has become the new normal.” Honestly and truly, while this is a very worn-out phrase, “if I had a dime: for al of the people that – especially that – work in stores, whether it’s Walmart, PetSmart, Whole Foods, etc. – of I had a dime for all of the store workers that have been incredibly rude, extremely unprofessional, and just plain mean, I’d be rich. I grew up in a time where “the customer is always right.” Don’t know about if customers are always right, but it was freakin’ almost unheard of for a store clerk or even, God forbid, a manager to ever, ever even think about being rude to a customer. It is now so common, that if feels like managers don’t say a word to the offending store clerk; if they did, they’d have to fire so many workers, they WOULDN’T HAVE any workers. OR something; really don’t know. Today, I was horribly bullied by a manager at the PetSmart off of Southgate in CO Springs. Sorry; I’m having a very difficult time accepting this bizarre reality; that “the new normal” is to be rude, and/or to be a bully, including and ESPECIALLY if you work at a store, work on the phone as a Customer Service Agent, etc.

  • Glib

    Bullied all my life and now I am getting bullied at college again. I am 36. I wish people would just leave others the eff alone.

    • Dulce Torres Zarate

      im so sorry

      • Dulce Torres Zarate

        no one has to feel in that way.

  • stephen

    I am epileptic, and bipolar and have other disabilities and have learning disability to and I am 51 years old i been bullied all my life i been punched, and yelled at and screamed at, told i was stupid and still get this today. I so tired of it and decided to move away again and last Time i was bullied I had enough and punched a 28 year old man and went to jail for assault and i can not do that but i got tired of being bullied what can i do if i got tired of the punishment. I get bullied for believing in God and I get bullied for being disabled why? i get bullied for not writing correctly or spelling correctly or putting the right periods, comas doing the punctuation why. I feel i should just leave and live like a hermit and see no one that way i don’t bullied. it is the young mostly that bully me and the elderly too why? i done nothing to deserve to be bullied. i never did anything yet i am bullied even as a older adult. Why?

    • Joey Burkman

      High Stephen,
      I just haphazardly came across this article as I’m in the process of putting together a lesson for our Youth Group and I just wanted to respond to your comment.
      First off I’m so sorry that you are experiencing bullying. I’ve been bullied my whole life as well through grade school and high school. I’m now in my 40’s and it still continues. So I can relate to how you feel. Just some encouraging thoughts to remember, hurt people, hurt people. This article is fairly accurate as to why so many people bully and are so miserable with thier own lives. As we get older our social circles shrink quite conciderably. I would encourage you to build relationships with people that will be encouraging and help you maintain a positive attitude and mind. Also to help you understand why you’re mocked and made fun of for your faith in God is real simple. He doesn’t promise an easy life. Scripture tell us that any one wanting to live a Godly life in Christ will be pursecuted. Take a look at 2 Timothy and Matthew 24. I find affirming when I’m made of for my faith. So thats a good thing Stephen! If the secular world embraced us and didn’t mock us or persecute us in any manner that would have made Jesus a lyer…..and we know he’s not, as a result of the way the world treats us.
      I suffered a very low self-esteem and self-image for most of my life. I started attending church a little over 10 years ago and have built some incredible friendships. I encourage you to do the same my friend. Keep in mind however that church can present it’s own challenges with other people, no matter where you go the potential is there for disappointment and bullying. Seek the good in people keep your head up high my friend. I will be praying for you.


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